Others say it can be at least 2 genders, but give a very strong feeling that two of those genders had better be male and female. Quite a few (although not by any means all) of the definitions I have seen of genderfluid remain kind of within the binary still, saying it moves between male and female. Thank you both for taking the time to reply! I really appreciate it. I feel like I sound like such a butt in this post, so I'm really sorry! Thank you for posting, Ace, and I hope you get tons of good responses! Will you be happier changing your pronouns often even if you have to deal with people you know slipping up or disrespecting them, or will you feel better not changing them so you won't have to hear people knowingly misgender you? It might be hard either way, but there's nothing else I can think of at the moment. You might have to look at all the different choices and gauge which one will affect you the most negatively or positively. Or you could use she all the time like other people who aren't female/are only sometimes female, it just depends on what feels ok to you. If you choose something like they, you could still use it on your female days seeing as it's the default for anyone regardless of gender. Some people who identify that way will probably be 'round to help soon.įor living with it, you might take a neutral or neutral but "feminine-sounding" name and similar pronouns. Are either of those at all in line with what you were thinking? If not, I'd love some clarification on the two gender identities as well, and even more I'd like to know your own definition of genderfluid and if/why you feel masculinity is necessary to be fluid and not flux.Īnyway, I think you could very well be genderflux, but I don't have too firm a grasp on the term. A genderflux person feels feminine one day, unfeminine another day, and partly feminine but not another day- femininity being the measurement. Like, a genderfluid person feels feminine one day, nothing another day, feminine but not female someday and goes by whatever gender they feel fits best. What I think might be the biggest difference, though I could be wrong as I'm just trying to make sense of it after hearing how you feel, is that genderfluid people go from being one gender to another or more, and genderflux people do that as well but maybe measure their place on the spectrum by how much like one gender or how much of a particular gendered trait they identify with? Really quickly, did someone tell you that you had to be or feel masculine or male to be genderfluid? Genderfluid and genderflux have the same definition in a lot of places and neither of them require any one gender to be present. I am still questioning my feelings though, how do I know for sure how I feel when I am pretty sure it is changing all the time? Clothes and style are good, because I can change them day to day without the fuss. If so how do I live with it? For example I can't change my pronouns all the time, there's enough misgendering, going on in my freindgroup, of people who are out as trans/nonbinary, I can just imagine how people would mangle and resent something that changes. I am just like, meh, can I change my pronouns to they/them now? I tried thinking "I am a woman" and it just made me feel grumpy and wrong. Today I am almost to the point of agender. A few days ago I took note of how I felt, and I felt like a woman, I said it in my head 'I am a woman' and I knew it was true, and I felt awesome being female. That I am not mistaken about feelings of femininity yesterday just because I don't feel them today.
Lately I have been paying more attention and considering the possibility that all my gender feelings are real.
Or like fluctuation and a little bit of grumpiness isn't enough somehow, and I should just slink back to my binary cisgender cubbyhole. I also had (and still have a little) this feeling like maybe I am just trying to be special, like I spend enough time with non-binary people that I want to fit in. I knew I wasn't genderfluid because I have never felt the least bit masculine. I had no idea there was an actual word for it.
It was even in my profile, I've got that I am usually a woman but sometimes a demigirl. Then I would go to change my gender on my profile, and remember that strong feeling of femaleness, and I'd know demigirl or agender wasn't true, but also female wasn't true either. I'd feel like demigirl, or occasionally agender might suit me more. Then sometimes I'd wonder, if maybe I wasn't as much of a woman as I thought. You see sometimes I am adamant and convinced that I am a woman. I thought I was just a little bit confused. Darn I thought I had done all the figuring out about myself.
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